Why?

So, when a woman is continually hurt by the man she cares for, is it reasonable to think that her feelings are not reciprocated? I mean, let’s face it, if a guy doesn’t want to spend time with a woman, it pretty much shouts he’s not interested, right?!? So, why then does he continue to call? Why does he continue to play on her feelings, making her wonder what he feels? Is it all just a game men play? Does it boost a man’s ego to have a woman fall in love with him?

Why is it that men and women cannot communicate their feelings to one another? Are they afraid the other person does not feel the same way—that they will play the fool? I for one will not put my feelings out there until I know that the man I love feels the same way. I’ve been burned before—why would I be foolish again? And, I for one believe that the man in the relationship needs to be the first to say ‘I love you’.

Why can’t things just be black and white? Why do we have to wonder WHY people do what they do? Is there some big psychological reason he doesn’t love me, blah, blah, blah? Why can’t people just do what they feel? If they love someone, then love that person. If they don’t care, then don’t act like they care. Wouldn’t that be so much easier? Then we would know where we stand with everyone. I hate these games we play.

A chapter....

So, I’ve always wondered—if a woman is crazy over a man, is it logical that the man is crazy for her? Does a woman really let herself fall in love if she isn’t getting the same signals back? And, what kind of signals does a man send—the same as a woman? How is a woman to know if he loves her or just wants her for the moment? Are we all too naïve to know if we’re just being taken advantage of. I mean is there an instruction book out there or something?

Questions for that book:

• Is being in love the same as finding someone totally irresistible?

• Can something so intensely intriguing end as unexpectedly as it began?

• So, does the instruction book state that men can end a relationship without even an explanation or a ‘good-bye’ while women must cry and wonder what went wrong. Rule: Men can go on with their lives as if nothing happened, while women must struggle with self-confidence, surround themselves with their friends for support, and swear to never fall in love again.

I’d like to get my hands on that book!

Philosophy

Ok so here is today's deal. I had the day off, and was soooo busy all day, however I'm not sure really what I did all day! Cleaned a little, shopped a little, gossiped a little...hmm. I have noticed that when it comes to women, we really don't have much going for us....walk into a room, listen to the conversations that groups of young women are having. I can almost guarentee that it revolves around Shopping, Men, the dreaded past relationships and other girls that they don't like. This is truly pathetic people! I mean come on, there is sooo much more to life than this! Don't get me wrong, I love those topics as much as the next girl, but women are SMART if they want to be!! Why not discuss current events, groundbreaking moments, favorite books, something...I mean really...So girls, listen up, this is what we are talking about from now on...And maybe we should all take up my philosophy on dating

Here's my philosophy on dating. It's important to have somebody that can make you laugh, somebody you can trust, and somebody that, you know..turns you on....And it's really, really important that these three people don't know each other.

Passion and perseverence...

pas.sion [pash-uhn]

–noun 1. any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling, as love or hate.

2. strong amorous feeling or desire; love; ardor.

3. strong sexual desire; lust.



This is the most commonly associated ideal one thinks of while the word "Passion" flashes across your mind. Some amazing connection with another person, intense, exciting...all of the heat you see in the movies. That is what I have been deciding I want...but here is my question....is it possible to have a serious and passionate relationship with respect and adoration all at the same time? So far...in my 24 vast years of experience, I am thinking ... not so much. I'm not sure I've ever had both...I've been in a passionless companionship, and I've been in this lustful, abstract relationship-like thing...both of which left me completely unsatisfied in one form or another. I'm so confused! Is there any kind of happy medium out there? Is it possible to have this deep connection with someone and still have that electric connection, or is it one or the other? I sort of hate the thought of only having one in my life. I truly hope there is some form of both which can meld into this perfect thing.



I'm not saying that I want this perfect relationship right now, nor anytime soon. I am enjoying reclaiming my quasi-independence, and setting goals and hoping to meet them in the not-so-distant future. So that’s me...Just someone who hopes to find that person who can meet all of her perfect prerequisites....

mistakes...

I've been thinking a lot about what our end goal should be....what the point of this whole stupid mess is....all I know is my list of mistakes just keep getting grander and grander....and a bit more silly with each day....People seem to always say 'Everything happens for a reason.' These people are usually women. And these women are usually sorting through a break-up. It seems that men can get out of a relationship without even a 'Goodbye,' But, apparently, women have to either get married or learn something. Then again maybe our mistakes are what make our fate. Without them, what would shape our lives? Perhaps if we never veered off course, we wouldn't fall in love, or have babies, or be who we are. After all, seasons change. People come into your life and people go. But it's comforting to know the ones you love are always in your heart. So maybe, just maybe, instead of worrying what is going to happen in the end, we should concentrate on today...today is only here once.